In the summer of 2021, I saw an video play for the ReEngage | Enrich Your Marriage class at Trinity Baptist Church.
One of the men talking in the video said, “We had become so good at sweeping conflict under the rug that it led to resentment and mistrust.”
They are words I will never forget.
There’s something else I’ll never forget. The fear I had about asking my husband to go with me to the class. I knew we needed it. I knew I needed to learn how to communicate with him. I knew I needed to reconnect with him. I knew in my heart, the opportunity the class would provide was one we couldn’t miss.
When I finally asked him to go with me to ReEngage, he didn’t know any of the reasons why I wanted him to go. But he knew it was important to me, so he said, “Yes”.
Looking back, we are both glad we took 16 Sunday nights that year to work on our marriage.
When he talks to other husbands about going, he tells them that why he didn’t think we needed a marriage class or counseling at the time, he is glad he said “YES”. Then he echos what I say, “We learned more about each other in 16 weeks than we had learned in 12 years.”
ReEngage starts again at Trinity on Sunday, January 15th. That’s in one week. It is open to anyone in the community who wants to attend. The registration deadline is this Wednesday.
As I have spoken with women about attending over the last few weeks, I have heard this response, “If I can talk my husband into doing it, we will.”
I remember being in that same spot. As I pondered that this morning, I flashed back to another time in my life.
There’s a feeling I will never know. I will never know the anxiety my boyfriend felt as he went to a jewelry store and picked out an engagement ring. I’ll never know the excitement he felt as he put it in his luggage for a trip to Jamaica. I’ll never know the thoughts he had as he planned the right night on the beach to pull it out of his pocket.
But I know one thing. He hoped I would say, “Yes”.
I did. I said, “Yes”.
We got to work planning a wedding.
As I pondered that this morning, I also pondered the words a man had said at a conference years before as he spoke about his engagement.
“She got to work planning our wedding. I got to work planning our life together.”
ReEngage gives you tools you need to build your life together when the storms come. It gives you tools you need to learn how to resolve disagreements and end the endless arguments that seem to happen in marriages. It gives you tools to prevent your marriage from becoming stagnant … or resurrect it if it’s already reached that point. It teaches you how to communicate effectively with your spouse. It teaches you how to overcome past hurts and give forgiveness.
As I ponder that, I can’t understand why anyone would tell their spouse “No” to coming to the class.
Gentlemen … if your wife said “Yes” when you asked her to get engaged, you owe it to her to say “Yes” when she asks you to get “ReEngaged”.
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